“Your personal life, your Professional life, and your Creative life are all intertwined.”
I went through a long and very difficult few years where I felt like a failure. And sometime like today when o was skating in front of a crowd at a show here in Niagara Falls I felt like a complete failure when I made a mistake. The thing I have to do to keep out of that dark place society can drag people into their minds. Being an ultimate competitor from competitive sports I have found my focus spots in my mind and made peace inside habitual and focused exercise to keep the calm in practice. Meditation is a key to our success in todays practice in sport, health, business.
Oh yes I know many people might say “ya right your a complete failure, especially behind someones back” yet for sure even when it did not show I am always trying to keep away from screwing up in some way.
It is always the nay sayers that jump the band wagon because they refuse to push the status quo, they forget to lead and stay the follower. It is very sad and it can hurt others from a lack of faith and internal fortitude. I think it is just the way I look sometimes, my Lord made me into big bad ass looking guy, but deep down I am a big teddy bear.
Sometimes like everyone I fell like the world is falling in on me gloomy days and my shoulders were very heavy with the weight of my world on them. I worry about what everyone else wants because I actually care. It is true I want people to like and respect me and our company for what we do, but more important I need to like me. I need to like us as a company.
It is funny, through my life I have taken a beating. Being a Red Head, and a skater, and a younger brother I got it from many directions. Yet the kids that I got a long with in school I still get on with today and I sure respect them and their successes. But it is amazing that the people who left the biggest impact on my life was the people who honestly did not have any positive impact for my wellbeing. I focused what they focused on and I still do till this day because it was the people who kept saying I can’t. You can’t! It’s not possible dummy. Even my one brother told me once that a hand-held laser would never be possible. He was such a dumbass and I should have listened to my gut instinct.
“Believe and live the life you dreamed of. People that will believe in your vision, your story of life will and always will find you and help you along.”
So I proudly dropped those people that either talked poorly to me, about me, or about others out of my life so I could get clarity and space to live in my being. I had to leave a few I really cared for behind because of the future.
I really believe in living in the moment and preparing for the future. Living in the past teaches us history, and we need to learn from our mistakes and our successes. It is so important to understand
“THE PAST DOES NOT EQUAL THE FUTURE”.
We have to learn great habits that will re create success over and over again. When we have failures it is a great learning curve, but we need to take it on the chin, ask for forgiveness and carry on. Start over again and get going.
It is actually an important lesson and learning curve for me to go through because even now at this very moment I am striving to find great people that will stand with me, stand with our company and community knowing I have their backs in the good and bad times.
I am a loyal person to my friends and family, students, and co-workers. But I especially have the backs of the kids we teach. They are the future. I find that I will take a bullet for them without thinking about it, but it sure is interesting to see the people you believe in not even consider standing with you in a time of crisis.
The internal struggles I have are normal and the fight or flight response for me was pure. I usually a very passionate person that will stand for what I believe in. I try to do what I believe is right. I try to be fair and compassionate and I try to be giving. I at least try! We try!
It has been so empowering to know no matter what that I have dreamed, I worked my ass off, and have lived my passion and inspiration. I like to say to my friends and colleagues that I am doing, and this is (what ever it is) for the future. Pushing the Status Quo aside and making a lasting impact in people minds.
In the end and to me the most inspirational thing in the world at the end of the day because I got to be back with my dreams, my family, and my friends that I could count on and also that could count on me.
I wake up everyday being thankful for my girls smiling at me and looking forward to the new adventures of the day. God only knows what is in store but it is exciting day to day.
Do I have any regrets over the past years? Maybe a few like not going out more with my friends, but those people I did not party with, we have found employment for them over and over again. I think it is paying off for the sacrifice of time for partying to prepare for the future. We have fulfilled some part or multiple parts of the dream and plan in action.
All though I did regret some of my actions standing up for my beliefs many of the people (with no agent in the middle so things did not become personal) I stood up to have recanted their decisions and thought about my position and said wow you did it right. I just see the big picture of life at the same time as the small one at the same time. I believe my imagination can lead to positive outcomes.
Robin Williams said in the movie Dead Poets Society
“No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.”
[quoting Henry David Thoreau] “I went to the woods because I wanted to live deliberately. I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life.”
“They’re not that different from you, are they? Same haircuts. Full of hormones, just like you. Invincible, just like you feel. The world is their oyster. They believe they’re destined for great things, just like many of you. Their eyes are full of hope, just like you. Did they wait until it was too late to make from their lives even one iota of what they were capable? Because you see, gentlemen, these boys are now fertilizing daffodils. But if you listen real close, you can hear them whisper their legacy to you. Go on, lean in. Listen. You hear it?… Carpe… Hear it?… Carpe. Carpe diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your lives extraordinary.”
I believe in being real! The real answer to that question is not anymore because I did what was right.
Here is another verse from author Mark Twain,
“Your never wrong to do the right thing.”
Letting go to take the next step forward to my dreams and desires to inspire others and to employ them, help them, coach them down the road has never been stronger or greater.
As a husband and a father, son and friend I have never felt closer or happier as I can see the positive vibrations that our little family invokes in other people with family.
We live with passion, we live a humble life, and we are use to being able to adapt, improvise, overcome pretty much anything – “as long as you treat life in a positive and reflective way.”
Never stop Living, Never let people dull your sparkle when you are meant to shine, never let the people that did not kick their own ass to success pull you down because they cannot figure it out for themselves.
People will always talk, and if they are talking they are either praising you, or wishing and hoping they could be as happy or as successful as you are.
It’s not money that says your successful, even though that helps a lot. It is the path of positivity and the dedication we have in the end to ourselves to help inspire others to their own success and greatness. One way or another we live or die, so we may as well LIVE TO INSPIRE AND INSPIRE TO LIVE.